I’ve spent a lot of my life alone, with the understanding that if you want to succeed, you have to do it alone, because people will simply hold you back. They will be too needy, cause too many problems, be unreliable, and inevitably make you wish that you had just done it all without them. No one will do it you’re way, so you should just do it yourself.

I also used to believe that destiny was stumbled upon miraculously and almost accidentally. One day, you would be working away, and then, like magic, you would be in the middle of an epiphany and find yourself knowing exactly what you were born to do. You might drop everything and chase this new found sense of purpose and direction in a swirl of passion.

However, despite what we’ve been told or have seen, I believe that path is worn and tired, beaten down by too many feet who have sojourned the way of striving disguised as seeking God for direction, purpose, or calling. In addition, we’ve been made to believe that we are supposed to make this journey alone, that our destiny is ours and ours alone. People will simply muddy it.

Simply put, Jesus did not die for this. He didn’t resurrect just to employ us. His death didn’t pay for a ticket to Heaven and a name tag with your job title written in gold. Rather, the risen Jesus paid for a much fuller life that is void of isolation or striving, one that doesn’t involve an endless, lonely search for purpose. He destined us to be with Him, with each other.

Isn’t it interesting that God asked Cain where his brother was just after he murdered him? Didn’t God already see everything? God wasn’t asking because He didn’t know. While I can’t claim to be a biblical scholar, I believe the Lord’s question was a loaded one. He asked, not only for the obvious reason of murder, but because it was never His intention for Cain to tend to the ground and present his offering alone. If God had wanted that, He wouldn’t have created Abel. And because Cain acted in insecurity and desperate need to prove that his offering, he not only killed his brother, but as a result, was forced to wander the earth aimlessly. Without his brother, Cain had no purpose or direction.

I believe this, along with much of scripture, reveals that God is truly the God of Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob — the God of Family.

Without our brother or sister, we won’t see the Father rightly. We will wither away. We will waste our time dancing around the idols we’ve made and throwing our lives to the wind. If we don’t see Him for who He is, we will pray to a God who doesn’t hear, cry to a God who cannot crouch down and meet us, and sing to a God who does not know the sound of music.

We were made to be people who see Him for who He is; a Father who bankrupted Heaven just to be close to us. A Father who loves more in a moment than anyone else could in a lifetime. If we can catch a glimpse of the real Father, the real Jesus, and the real Holy Spirit, not only will we — for likely the first time in our life — drink the true living water, but will also be drawn together as brothers and sisters who stand in a mutual astonishment of the God that is, in Himself, goodness. His cross paid for us to lay down our weapons. Our destiny is to fall in love over and over again, together.